Wednesday, 27 February 2008

Marriage thoughts...

Today, on a forum that I frequent, a topic came up about marriage age: about how young is too young/ how old is to old. How much life experience you should have... blah blah blah. It really got me thinking and as I sat down to reply to the thread, a whole lot thoughts came spilling out from my fingers and I was surprised by what I wrote. So I thought I'd pop it in here so that I can look back at it again later.


We are a young couple. We have been 'together' (wasn't allowed to date but he was waiting for me) since I was 14 and he was 18. I finished year 12 when I was 16 and we started going out, and we got engaged June after that, when I was 17. We got married when I was 18 years old, and Peter was 22. We have been married for 2 years.

I know we were young, but there is no way you could convince me that *we* were too young. Others may be at that age, but for us, things flowed the way they were meant to. We always had a very mature relationship. It was never about sex, or what we could get from each other, but about friendship, love, and 100% giving of ourselves to each other.

To be honest, for my experience, the whole 'life experience before marriage' thing doesn't cut it with me. In our relationship, we gain life experience together. We have been growing together for almost 7 years now. We have travelled together, relocated away from our families and support networks to a place where we knew no one together, got through a stressful first year of university together .. and through it all our relationship has strengthened and grown.

We never argue, we talk about EVERYTHING. We are always tired because when we go to bed at night we spend hours talking .. lol. He is my best friend and we support each other in everything that we do. we make all of our decisions together and enjoy each other's company so much.

I love being a young married person and being able to see a long road of the rest of my life stretching ahead of me, and knowing that I will have Peter by my side the whole way. I have known that I would marry Peter since I was 14 years old and there was no way in the world that I was going to put off being married to him because society said I was too young.

I don't believe for one second that age has anything to do with being ready for marriage. I know people who are in their 30s who say they know they're not ready to be married. And I know quite a few people around my age who have wonderful marriages. No, readiness to marry is not about the age of the couple, it is about two individual people, their experiences, attitudes, values and beliefs, their maturity and the nature of their relationship.


  1. Great post Zoey. I agree with you 100% and I think you are both perfect for each other.

  2. I also agree with you 100% I think what you said was beautiful. I would without doubt prefer a single relationship just like what you and pete have over "life experience" of dating many different women. I am waiting for that special person who i know i will find one day.


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